Being realistic-For Once

I’ve always been one to make goals for myself and never follow through with completing them. Unfortunately, I think this is a habit that many of us take on and I think its fine time that we stop. Lets stop telling putting things off when we can do them now. Why talk the talk, and not walk the walk. So this year I made some goals for myself. The first goal was to be healthy, and just live life. I cant tell you guys how many times I have done the crash diets. You know, the diets where you literally eat nothing. I’ve done the Herbalife, Rice Diet, Green Smoothie diet. I’ve tried everything and in the end I still wasn’t happy. Yeah, I lost weight, but then I just ended up gaining it back.

So this year I made a vow to myself that I would not do the crash diets. I will not starve myself of food, and then binge when I get extremely hungry. I wont do it. I want to enjoy food and not be afraid that if I decide to eat a brownie its going to kill me. Granted, if I eat like ten brownies that may not be the right move…but you get what I’m saying. The final goal for myself is to run a 5k. **To all you runners, I realize this is not a long run. But I figured if I could accomplish this, then maybe I can continue to push myself and eventually run a half marathon or something. If I make crazy goals and expectations it just wont happen.

I have to be realistic with myself….for once.

You can follow my healthy journey on my other blog.


Who She was

She often lived a life trying to get acceptance from other people. So who was she? She was naïve, and young. She believed life was a fairy tale and had happy endings until her prince never came looking for her with her glass slipper. She believed that families would last forever until her mother died 3 years ago. She believed that it was actually possible to graduate college within 4 years until she changed majors three times. She was the one who had lots of friends till she realized she was the only one being the friend. She was the one who always smiled but cried inside. The one who often let people go but somehow always let them back in. The one who settled for less when her mom always taught her to never settle for any mess. The one who was often taken for granted, and under-estimated. The one who could give the advice but wouldn’t take her own. That “she” was me…

But I’ve realized that life is not a fairy tale and we have to be ok with the fact that sometimes we’ll have bad days, all relationships don’t work out, and that you’ll probably only have a few people in your life you can ever really call your friend. Loving that pivotal moment when you learn to be okay with who GOD made you to be, and no one else. Learning the lesson that when its time to let people go let them go, because some people are only meant to be in your life for a reason or a season. I’ve realized despite how long I’ve been in school the end is near and I can smell it. Despite it all, I’m just me, learning and growing everyday trying to be all that I can be. My name is Ashley; I’m thankful, humble, content and blessed. Who are you?

***I don’t know if I would call this poetry…but these were just some thoughts, and reflections….(*Sigh) oh how things have changed***

10 Things I’ve Learned

.. So today  I was thinking about how when I was growing up my parents would always give me advice and they would always say “I tell you this, because I’ve been through it..or Do you think I just tell you this for my health?” and regardless of what they told me I always went against it and learned the hard way…So i decided that I would share 10 things that I have learned in this thing we call “LIFE”. Please share some of your own!

1. Dont depend on other people to do things for you that you can do yourself! No im not saying that you should live life thinking you never need help from anybody, but I am saying that you shouldnt solely depend on other people to do something for you.

2. Dont loan money to ive heard my mom say this all the time “not to loan money to people; because most likely you wont see it again, you wont see it when you were supposed to, or you wont see the amount you gave out in the beginning.” I believe that you should be mindful when loaning out money to people. I think contracts should be set up, or loan+interest or something. I feel like when you loan money to people they become inconsiderate (I HAVE BILLS TOO). And then people act like when you ask for your money your bothering them, or “If you want it come and get it” type attitude… If someone has given you money Please repay them with the full amount that was given to you in the time that you said you would repay them. You burning bridges doing stuff like this..

**If you have borrowed money from me, and have not paid me back, or didn’t pay me back when you told me you were, please know I WILL NEVER LOAN YOU MONEY AGAIN!..**

3. Always make A & B plans…Never rely solely on one set of plans to work out because most likely they wont. If you have other plans set up then this helps so you’re not left disappointed

4. Always carry a little bit of Cash: I know that some people are strongly against carrying cash, and they are strictly for their credit cards. But it is important to carry some cash ($5, 10 max) this is because you never know when you could catch yourself in an emergency and in a situation where they don’t take credit cards, etc. You never know.

5. Not to be so quick to call everyone my FRIEND!- Not everyone who I meet who is nice, is my friend. It’s that simple.  I really don’t think this needs an explanation forreal.

6. Never talk to a guy who has a girl-who breaks up with the girl for ME and then not expect the cycle to happen to me- Yeah, so ladies and gents…If they broke up with someone for YOU, what makes you think they wont do it when someone else comes around..

7. If you put in the work you get results- this goes with anything but for me mainly with school. I struggled tremendously in school growing up, but honestly I really wasn’t putting in the work so I always received satisfactory grades. But now I know if you put in the work you will get positive results!

8. Its not what you know but who you know- It is always always always important to network. You should always try to have business cards, or something with your name and info on it. Have you ever heard of a 30 second commercial? You have 30 seconds to sell yourself! You never know who you will meet and when you will meet them. Opportunities are always there people!

9. 8 is important!- You know how they say 8 hours of sleep is good for you, and 8 glasses of water is good…well its true! I promise you if you try to get at least 8 hours of sleep you will feel amazing..and drinking 8 glasses of water is really good for your body. (I’ll make a post about Eating Healthy Soon)

10.Always carry lotion, gum, and tissues Now I can’t say that I always have these items in my purse. But my mom always taught me to make sure I have these essentials in my purse. 1. You never know when you will accidentally leave the house without putting on your lotion and well you don’t want to have ashy knuckles or knees all day 2. The onions you just had on your salad, that gum will take care of that, or the brother sitting next to you he needs a slice..this way everyone is benefiting 🙂 3. Tissues come in handy in all situations. You could spill something, have a boogie, or may need to spit out that gum. Ha ha! Never know!

His Humor

So as many people know, I have been extremely stressed out lately with things regarding school. Today I came to my room and had my normal crying break down moment. In the midst of my tears, I was asking myself “When will it be over”…and I heard GOD say “When you let me run the show”. I’ve been so caught up in what I wanted, and all these plans I had set up that I continuously forget im not running the show. And through everything that has been going on the past few weeks, GOD has been telling me that and I just wasnt listening. I was crying, and praying…like “GOD, I trust you that your going to work this situation out” instead of praying “Let it be your will lord…” I had remembered this saying and just started laughing “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” ….Im choosing to really trust him,and praise him in the midst of all my pain, and praise him in advance for what he’s going to do in my life.  

Eating Meat A Sin? Angela Simmons Says so

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Angela Simmons recently joined as an advocate for the PETA campaign. Angela Simmons in her recent interview with PETA says “

“As a devout Christian, I feel it’s very important to show compassion for all of God’s creation — and adopting a vegetarian diet is the best way to keep innocent animals from suffering.

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I applaud Angela Simmons for taking a stand in what she believes in. I was a vegetarian for a year and a vegan for 30 days. It takes a lot of commitment and sacrifice for sure. I always ask myself if ill ever revert back to the vegetarian lifestyle because believe it or not people, YOU DONT NEED MEAT TO SURVIVE! It is known that people who have a plant-based diet are healthier than those who consume meat. But what are your thoughts on her decision to go nude for the campaign? Do you think it was right, did it prove a point?

She made a statement, and people are definitely paying attention. You go ange!

Memory: September 11 2001

Where were you on September 11 2001? I will never forget how this day played out. I was in the 8th grade, and was in math class. Another teacher came to our room, and our teacher left for what seemed like forever. The class could hear commotion outside in the hall, and a lot of teachers were out there whispering and stuff. Kids were being called to the office for early release, and I remember that because I kept looking for my mom to pick me up. No one told us what was going on…or at least if they told me I don’t remember. I do remember going home, and my mother being there already. I asked her what was going on and she turned on the TV, when I saw video footage of planes going into the World Trade Center.

 Thousands of people lost their life that day and 10 years later AMERICA! is standing together to remember that day and of the fallen. Let us continue to stand united as a country, and let us never forget!….